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40 Days Of Prayer, Fasting And Repentance For Marriage


April 10, 2014

 . . . remember the Lord who is great and awesome, and fight for your brothers, your sons, your daughters, your wives and your houses. – Nehemiah 4:14

The Family Foundation is asking that you join us for 40 Days of Prayer, Fasting and Repentance for Marriage from August 27 until October 5, 2014. Our state and nation are mired in a morass of confusion and post-modern thinking that does not believe in absolutes nor that any truth can even be known. Nowhere is this more evident than in the current debate raging about what constitutes marriage. Pagan philosophies, a secular humanist education establishment and an entertainment industry that is absolutely determined in pushing the envelope on decency and morality have all combined to turn this great land into a country that our forefathers could not even begin to recognize.

How did we get here? We must look within and ask, “Have we as believers been the salt and light that Jesus commanded us to be?” So many churches in America have become lukewarm and have lost the ability to impact culture in the way they once did. Our nation, built on a Judeo-Christian foundation, has been greatly blessed by the Lord, but instead of being thankful, we have turned our back on the Lord and His teachings and have and followed after other gods. That is why we are asking you to join us zealously in humility and fasting in repentance before God and implore Him to heal our land.

The Virginia Marriage Amendment, which affirms God’s design for marriage as the union of one man and one woman, is being challenged in federal court. Our recently elected Attorney General, Mark Herring, has not only refused to defend Virginia in court, he has joined the plaintiffs in attacking our Marriage Amendment. The issue of marriage is out of the hands of the legislators and the people they represent, and is now in the hands of unelected, unaccountable judges.

The Supreme Court begins its session on October 6. We fully expect it to take a marriage case sometime in the next year. In the natural, it looks like a David vs. Goliath battle. The federal government, the news media, Hollywood, the public education system and big business all are arrayed on the side of same-sex “marriage.” Only the church stands in support of God’s design for marriage. Our 40 Days will culminate on October 5 just before the court begins its session. We don’t know what the Lord will do. We do know that He is sovereign. Whatever happens, we must adopt the attitude of the three Hebrew children who refused to bow before the golden image in Babylon:

If it be so, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the furnace of blazing fire; and He will deliver us out of your hand, O king. But even if He does not, let it be known to you, O king, that we are not going to serve your gods or worship the golden image that you have set up. – Daniel 3:17-18

If you are a pastor, please consider having your church join with us in this effort. The Family Foundation is partnering with other nationally known organizations to provide talking points, sermon outlines, bulletin inserts, video clips and other resources to help you lead your congregation through the 40 Days. We will also send a daily prayer journal to everyone to help guide our prayers and devotions during that time. Click here to be directed to a page where you can sign up as a partnering church in this effort. You also can indicate on that page that you will prayerfully consider partnering with us.

If you would like a representative from The Family Foundation to come and speak to your congregation about the 40 Days of Prayer, Fasting and Repentance please contact us 804-343-0010. If you are not a pastor, click here to sign up and then forward this link to your pastor to encourage your church’s involvement with us.

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44 Responses to “40 Days Of Prayer, Fasting And Repentance For Marriage”

  1. K Norris says:

    This is not Christian behavior, this is bigotry. Perhaps you will starve to death, go meet Jesus, and learn from him how very very wrong you are to discriminate. In the meantime,you are embarrassing us Virginians. Stop it..

    • T. Odoul says:

      I agree with you on the this is bigotry part but I’d take issue with it being not Christian behavior. When you have groups like the Westboro Baptist Church holding signs with God hates F*** slogan and protesting soldiers funerals, it’s very easy to dismiss the suit and tie efforts. The moderate faithful need to speak out against efforts like this else be painted with the same brush of intolerance.
      The likelihood that any of the individuals sponsoring this actually miss a meal is slim.

    • Donna Vogelpohl says:

      hugs – totally agree – Christ would have been on the side of equal rights –

    • B. Levy says:

      Same sex marriage advocates say that what children need is love, but it is not loving to deny children a mother or a father for the sake of your own desires. I am not Christian, but I do not believe in the buying and selling of children to meet the desires of LBGT activists. I do not believe that taking a mother from a baby is a noble cause. I do not believe that children should be denied a relationship with their father and their mother when they are growing up. They need their mothers and fathers! Same sex marriage is entirely focused on the desires of adults.
      If you go to, you can read about what people who have been raised by lesbians/homosexuas have to say about their experience with same sex parenting.
      The propaganda in favor of same sex marriage will not last forever. The reality will eventually become apparent, but we’re going to make more children suffer in the meantime.

  2. Jeff Vrba says:

    You people are crazy.

  3. DavidEmghee says:

    I hear look at images of food helps stave off hunger pains. Maybe while you have your fast you could do some binge viewing of Food Network programs…OOPS, I said “binge”! MY bad! Of course, you folks aren’t really going to go without food for forty days. Why would you blatantly lie to people? Some Christians you are! You’ll suck the potato chip crumbs from your keyboards by Day 2.

  4. Ignatz says:

    “Look, you serve your own interest on your fast day,
    and oppress all your workers.
    Look, you fast only to quarrel and to fight
    and to strike with a wicked fist.
    Such fasting as you do today
    will not make your voice heard on high.
    Is such the fast that I choose,
    a day to humble oneself?
    Is it to bow down the head like a bulrush,
    and to lie in sackcloth and ashes?
    Will you call this a fast,
    a day acceptable to the Lord?

    Is not this the fast that I choose:
    to loose the bonds of injustice,
    to undo the thongs of the yoke,
    to let the oppressed go free,
    and to break every yoke?
    Is it not to share your bread with the hungry,
    and bring the homeless poor into your house;
    when you see the naked, to cover them,
    and not to hide yourself from your own kin?” – Isaiah 58

  5. Rev. K.C. Benson says:

    But when is Virginia going to start executing all your non-homosexual adulterers? You know, like the ones who are “walking the Appalachian Trail” or whatever it’s called these days. It’s there, in the Bible! “And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.” (Leviticus 20:10) And why not make the law retroactive? That would sure get rid of a lot of people in your Virginia legislature and governor’s office and administration, right? Start over with a fresh slate, like Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ commands!

  6. Mary Gordon says:

    We’ve had same sex marriage for a decade in Ontario, and the net impact on society is…..zilch, as far as I can see. It’s not really my business if the couple next door, straight or gay, are legally married by civil or religious definition. Same sex marriage does NOT compel churches to marry ANY couple who do not ascribe to the specific teachings and beliefs of that denomination. So no church is compelled to marry a same sex couple. All same sex marriage has really meant is that couples gain legal rights and obligation. We WANT people, same sex or not, to stay together and take care of each other. It’s good for society to have stability. I’m sure things I don’t approve of go on in assorted straight Christian bedrooms but it’s NOT MY BUSINESS.

    • Ken says:

      Wrong, Mary… Ontario is a perfect example of what Virginia should strive not to become. Our whole education system has gone down the drain. Teaching kids in kindergarten about gay sex… Toronto District School Board used to have a link on its website to a “sex-ed” website that encouraged all students to “experiment” with homosexual sex. Toronto is also the location of one of the largest gay “pride” parades in the word. Our Premier is even a lesbian (used to be married to a man, but dumped him for her partner) and she routinely drops hints about implementing the gay agenda (eg. “open and inclusive” education system, etc.) Meanwhile, the Province is a financial mess and things are getting worse by the day…

  7. Cain Doggett says:

    I encourage all pastors who sign up to ask their local Chick-Fil-A franchisees to close for the whole 40 day period in solidarity and to avoid tempting church members with their delicious sandwiches. Any restaurant that stays open in September is obviously in league with the devil himself, offering temptation instead of faith, and should be shunned before and after the fasting period.

  8. wonketeer says:

    Constitutional questions are not decided by the number of people abstaining from Big Macs.

  9. Mike Brooks says:

    Could you not fast for a little longer? Mortality rate at 40 days is still quite high.

  10. Steph says:

    I’m in.

  11. lolol says:

    nost likely 40 days without sex and tons of calories

  12. Colin Robinson says:

    Hmm. So your almighty god, creator and ruler of a billion trillion stars, (who never ventured further than 300 miles from his place of birth), wants you to demonstrate hatred and intolerance to people you believe he created?

    If he’s really that bothered about equal rights for all why don’t you let him sort it out?

  13. Rev. Clyde Baker says:

    I will not fault any Christians, however misled, for prayer and fasting. It can serve as a wonderful spiritual exercise to clear one’s head and sensitize one’s heart. In so doing, it is my prayer that many will begin to hear God’s voice calling us to welcome LGBT brothers and sisters into our fellowship, ordination and Christian marriage. It is past time to stop trying to hinder the work of the Holy Spirit. The Family Foundation will trumpet their depiction of God and urge you to pay no attention to the man behind the curtain–but these forty days can be a time of insight and change. Please use it wisely.

  14. nicole driscoll says:

    I am not a christian. I do not believe that Jesus was the son of God. I believe that god is the universe and I worship mother nature and am grateful every day for the blessings and the struggles that the universe and mother nature has bestowed upon me. That being said I want you at the Family Foundation to know that I forgive you. I forgive you for your hate. You are human and as humans we are fallible. I harbor you no I’ll will and I will try my best to send the universes positive energy in your direction so that you may become better human beings and feel love in your lives instead of hate. I guess most people in this country would consider that very ‘christian’ of me but I think that term has been so perverted by groups like you that if your Jesus was to witness your actions he would probably be ashamed. I forgive you and I love you because you are fellow human beings and I wish all my brothers and sisters on this earth health, well being and love. I hope you can find a similar path. Its a lot easier to love in this world than it is to hate. Remember that…please. All the universes love.

  15. Ethical Reason says:

    For the cause which only the most ignorant among you can tell each other isn’t about hatred, do you fundamentalist fools really intend to starve yourselves for 40 days? Are your really going to consume nothing but water for that entire period of time? You should know that nobody outside of your very cruel thought-bubble sympathizes with you in the least, because it’s all about your hatred. You hate that people who, by no choice of their own exist on the LGBT spectrum (it’s no more a choice for them than having a sex drive at all is a choice), can no longer be made your whipping boys and girls without consequences.

    If you ever dared give it much thought, you would understand not only the above, but that your hatred can no longer be whitewashed with the tactics which you are used to using. Pointing to your book, whether or not it has any strong support for such hatred (which is debatable) is only a dodge for the fact that religious texts never mold a group, they only reflect the writer’s sentiments and then inhibit the development of socio-cultural development for those in future generations who follow them strictly, to the point of snuffing out the thought processes which better a society.

    You have chosen strict, and unthinking (synonymous with thoughtless) adherence to a set of books which express backward ideas even for their time, and now your philosophical, and in some critically important ways intellectual development is at the Stone Age level. You fail to understand that the oppression of certain groups is pointlessly cruel, and that cruel, pointless oppression will always be remembered for the hatred which it is in fact. So if you really plan on behaving like 3-years-olds and refuse to eat, maybe some truly hungry people in the world will benefit from that, but you may as well just hold your breath for all the results it will get you.

  16. Aline says:

    It boggles my mind when groups like this dare speak of “family”.

    You want to talk about family? Let’s talk about the girls forced to give birth to their rapist’s children. Let’s talk about the homelessness rate of queer teens. Let’s talk about the suicide rate of queer teens. Let’s talk about the daughters and sisters and wives and mothers and aunts who have a one in four chance of being raped before they leave college. You want to talk about family? Let’s talk about family. Real families – ones with stepparents and half-siblings and legal guardians and foster parents and visitation. Let’s talk about how two people working minimum wage can’t afford to have a family. Let’s talk about the families who couldn’t afford decent medical care until the ACA came through.

    But when you talk about family, you’re talking about one cishet male and one cishet female who have missionary style sex once a month and go to church with their 2.5 children every Sunday.

    And when I talk about family, I’m talking about my stepmother, who’s a surrogate for a gay couple. I’m talking about my half-sister, who thinks it’s “crazy” that people can’t marry who they want. I’m talking about the straight girl I grew up with who accepts me unconditionally, the pansexual guy who bounced back from depression, the gay freshman and the trans girl and the asexual guy who met me in the courtyard even when it was cold enough to snow.

    So put “marriage” in quotation marks all you’d like. Fast. Pray. “Repent”. Go door to door with Bibles. Hand out pamphlets in airports. Protest our weddings, our fundraisers, our free clinics, our pride parades.

    But when marriage equality comes to Virginia – and come it will, whether you wish it to or not – and you’re still fasting, I’ll be out to dinner with my family.

    And you know what? I’ll raise you lot a toast for fundamentally misunderstanding the word family.

    Happy mother’s day.

  17. Elizabeth says:

    I’m going to just be very clear on this: Christianity is not the only religion in the US and several other religions have no doctrine stating that gay marriage, or any type of LGBT+ behaviour or relations are sin. Stop acting like you own everything. Marriage in and of itself is not originally a Christian concept, you do not own marriage.

    I hear all the time from fundamentalist christians that same sex marriage would be giving those couples a privilege or something. No, same sex couples want what every other couple has: the same economic benefits, the ability to share their health insurance, and to be able to live and be closer to the one they love most. They want equality.

    Also I suggest you do more research on Paganism, because to say that same-sex relations are a Pagan philosophy just tells me how incredibly ill-read and ignorant the people of this organization are.

  18. Dear oh dear... says:

    All this over one or two little lines in the Bible? When will the fasting begin to stop people wearing two different cloths/materials at the same time? Or will the next fast be to protest farmers planting two different crops side by side?

    Or, if you’re all so up on the sanctity of marriage, how about a protest about divorce? You know, that thing churches tend to forget is also preached against in the Bible?

    At no point in the Gospel narrative does Jesus himself condemn homosexuality. Surprisingly enough, the few instances of condemnation come from Paul or others who are merely men.

    Homosexuality is found in almost every single species on earth. Homophobia is only found in one.

  19. Sara says:

    This is absolutely sickening. You people are absolutely disgusting and give a bad name to “family” and “religion”. Both should be about including everyone and be understanding of their differences.
    I hope you all get terrible stomach ulcers and suffer for your stupidity while trying to do something that will in the end have no bearing on the law. It is ridiculous people have to fight to achieve the same rights you have because you decide to live with hatred rather than acceptance in your heart.

  20. Bruce says:

    Excellent! Christians waking up and realizing the urgency of this serious matter by making appeals to God through prayer, fasting and repentance to preserve America through His providential plan of “traditional” marriage for men & women. This follows the examples of American Patriots during the Revolutionary war that we outnumbered by the mighty British Armies and called for days of prayer, fasting & repentance that God would be pleased they would seek to glorify and honor Him through the pressing matters that faced them. Redefining marriage is contrary to God’s design and is playing with fire in the soul of America.

  21. Monica Mitchell says:

    I’d like to share some thoughts that came to mind while I listened to the promotional video. I hope you will give this a read.
    I would like you to consider the purpose of the church. The video mentions holiness, and implies that opposing gay marriage is a form of holiness. Holiness is a word that lacks definition because it is an abstract concept. I’ve heard it defined as being set apart like a city on a hill, or like a light in darkness.
    I would suggest that the purpose of the church and marriage too is love. The church is be known by its love. It should be so loving that it draws everyone to God by its very existence.
    What is love and how is it shown? Love is patient, kind,not envious or proud or rude or self-seeking or wrathful. it bears all, believes all, hopes all, endures all. And it never fails.
    How do you begin to love the whole world and all its peoples, not just those who agree you? By getting so like-minded with God that you always abide in his presence and his spirit fills you with love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, and self-control, until you are filled to overflowing with those rivers of living water, and it courses out of you naturally.
    Where love is, prophecies, tongues, and knowledge fall away. Teachings go quiet. Why? Because God is and his perfect love covers all. He is before all and is in all. His light overcomes darkness and this love casts out fear and hate. This is beautiful and there is room for all of us within him.
    So I would challenge you to ask yourself how loved people feel by this fast. How many are drawn to God by your love? Or perhaps, how many feel unloved by you and assume your God is exclusive too?
    Everything done or undone is meaningless without love. How many gays have you loved today?
    And sidenote, this nation was conquered to flee religious persecution. Marriage can be a reflection of God’s for the entire body of Christ, but marriage was historically a means of ownership of property, and not always exclusive between two people, one man and one woman.
    Just some thoughts.

  22. Andis Tamayo says:

    This is typical Right Wing Christian BS. Seeking to fight the “redefinition” of marriage by “redefining” fasting. Hypocritical much.
    B******, in response to your 40 days of hate I donated money to a group that just started a 40 of fundraising for love. Thank you for helping our cause. The Lord does acts in mysterious ways. Doesn’t he now?

  23. Timothy Kincaid says:

    I must say, God was very quick in His response. Just one day after your petition for His attention, he answered you.

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